Sometimes you gotta do what you have to do right then and there. I felt my husband did nothing wrong but anymore you have to watch every move you make. Just once id like to see a study done that includes him in all your facts and data. I was spanked as a child and everyone I know was spanked as a child. Reacting when you are angry generally will give you a negative result which you will later regret once your anger subsides.
Disciplining Your Child
If you were to monitor yourself and record it in a spreadsheet, perhaps it might look like this:. Save a life with a swat on the butt or let the child run and laugh and then try to correct with talking. Your comment Submitted by Denise Cummins Ph. Instead, speak more softly. Research tells us that parents dislike yelling.
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Pretty soon, you will be giving yourself permission to hit your child for even the slightest infraction because you will have become addicted to that rush of relief you get from hitting someone defenseless. What one child learns in a day, may take another child several months to learn. The research overwhelmingly shows that spanking is harmful to children. In fact, much less effort will achieve the same results. A spanking should be a calm, controlled affair, not a wild free-for-all. For they our earthly fathers disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them Kids see what behaving improperly can mean and probably won't make those mistakes again.
If you see something that concerns you, definitely report the incident to JPD at People who believe "sparing the rod spoils the child" typically dismiss the enormous body of research showing that hitting children turns them into angry, resentful adults with psychological and emotional problems. Every parent has lost their temper with his or her child. But as a science student, it is crucial that you pay attention to evidence when forming opinions. He also becomes defiant when I yell. It sounds like you not only survived but retained your goodness and compassion as well. I have used a flat wooden paddle upon occasion, and find it suffices.